Conflict repair script for couples

Step 1: Name the reset

“I do not want us stuck in this pattern. Can we reset and try this again more calmly?”

Step 2: Own your part

“My part was ____. I can see how that made this harder for us.”

Step 3: Reflect their concern

“What I hear is ____ mattered to you, and you felt ____ when that happened.”

Step 4: Share your core concern in one sentence

“My main concern is ____. I want us to solve that without blaming each other.”

Step 5: Commit one next action

“For this week, let us try ____ and check in on ____.”